Deployment: A Common Cause of Military Divorce

Military divorce is a kind of divorce where one or both spouses are in the military. It is different from civilian divorce because both federal and state courts are involved. According to the website of Higdon, Hardy and Zuflacht, military divorce can be a substantially different experience compared to a non-military divorce, because it involves unique factors, such as military pensions.

Despite the legal nightmare involved, military divorces still happen, and many of them are filed because of the same core problem – deployment. It is like a ripple effect, as deployment create problems in different aspects of family life.

Absence and its effects

Firstly, deployment means that the service member will not be with his or her spouse and children. There are already numerous problems that can arise from this first point. If the service member is away, relationship with spouse and children can be compromised, and it may even come to the point where the deployment has served as an invisible wall between family members. If the service member is away, he or she may also fail to commit to family duties, such as dividing house chores and bonding with the kids.

These problems are bigger than you realize. Loss of companionship may lead to infidelity on the side of the spouse, and detachment and rebellion on the side of the children.

Emotional and psychological problems

Secondly, deployment has its inherent risks, and the idea of risks can put an emotional and psychological toll to those who are going to be left behind – the spouse and children. Being anxious is understandable, but on instances where it might be too much, the following signs may arise:

  • Change in sleeping patterns, especially insomnia because of overthinking
  • Feelings of powerlessness, because they cannot do anything about the situation
  • Sadness or even outright depression because of loss of companionship

Of course, the service member themselves are not free from emotional and psychological problems, such as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The following are some of the symptoms they may experience:

  • Emotional alienation from spouse and children
  • Flashbacks, nightmares, and other forms of re-experience of traumatic events
  • Social withdrawal